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“I went into the woods because I wanted to live deliberately. I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life…to put to rout all that was not life; and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.”
- Henry David Thoreau

“You can prepare today or repair tomorrow.”
- Dave Darby

“When a person does not know what harbor they are making for, no wind is the right wind.”
- Seneca

“I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I have just lived the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.”
- Diane Ackerman

“Success is a result, not a goal.”
- Gustave Flaubert

“Better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.”
- Chinese Proverb

“The more sand has escaped from the hourglass of our life, the clearer we should see through it.”
- Nicolo Machiavelli

“Entrepreneurs are simply those who understand that there is little difference between obstacle and opportunity and are able to turn both to their advantage.”
- Nicolo Machiavelli

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Monday
26Jan2009

Soap and Water Still Works

When is progress a setback?  What are acceptable risks?  What price are we paying for our obsession with laziness and speed?

A commercial today might as well read like this:

“No time on your hands?  Tired of your clogged sink?  NO PROBLEM.  Pour this highly toxic chemical in your drain and let it sit for 10 minutes.  This not only eats away grungy hair, but it releases harmful toxins that may likely send you into shock or give you unexplainable cancer one day.  But, HEY, this is TODAY!  And today, you don’t have time for such petty concerns.  Give us 10 years of the end of your life and we’ll save you 15 minutes every 4 months - GUARANTEED or your money back.”

Several years ago, we broke free and took a stand. No more chemical cleaners in the house.  Well, not 100% gone, but probably 95.4% gone.

We still keep chlorine bleach but we also alternate with hydrogen peroxide bleach.  We keep window cleaner but we water it down in a separate bottle.  And we don’t spray for bugs so much to my wife’s chagrin, we occasionally have ants.

What’s the big deal I say?  Ants aren’t so bad.  In fact, we homeschool and I think having ants fulfills a biology credit.  Those little suckers are amazing to watch!

Plus, it’s pretty simple.  No food crumbs left behind - no ants.  No matter how clean we are, with 5 kids, we’re going to get a few ants from time to time.  What I don’t want is those suckers tracking in pesticide for our 2 year hold to be handling.  And trust me, this girl will and does handle them.  It is not uncommon at all for her to walk into the room holding a prize by the legs proclaiming -“pider!”

By the way, fear is a learned behavior, but that’s for another day.

So, the lesson is this: we have more access to both medical knowledge and care than any other time in history.  Yet cancer rates continue to rise.  Why?

YEAR   NEW CASES   DEATHS*

2002   1,284,900      555,500
2004   1,368,030      563,700
2006   1,399,790      564,830
2008   1,437,180      565,650

*from the American Cancer Society

At what point do we realize that cancer just might be a poor-man’s or rushed-man’s disease?  At what point do we realize that feeding and caring for massive population growth requires preservatives and toxins that just might - oh my what a coincidence - curb population growth?

From a big picture, macro level (i.e. Government), it makes sense to have acceptable levels of death by toxins, cancers et al.  After all, it is a strain on our global economic systems to have population booms, unemployment and poverty.  What would it be like if 2.5 million people didn’t die each year in the US alone?

But nobody lives on the macro level.  Nobody want’s cancer nor do they want it for their loved ones.  So here’s an example of how we ‘survive’ by not playing the macro, mainstream advertising game and by living without chemicals in the house.

About 2 weeks ago, I grabbed a bucket and a few old towels and hit all 3 bathroom sinks.  It’s this simple, removed the drain trap (ample info on Google), stuffed a rag in the pipe coming out of the wall to keep fumes out, then I took the parts to a working sink and cleaned out the trap.  The main bathroom sink was the worst so I started there - I always like to do the hardest job first.  Oh by the way, It’s also a good idea to do this 2 hours before or after a meal.

I use an old bottle washer to clean out both the trap and the pipe down through the sink - just remove the stopper and swab away.  Put it all back together, run water and test for leaks then the real test - pull the stopper, fill the sink with water the pull.  Ahhhh, record time.  That’s how a drain should work.

No expensive chemicals.  No harmful toxins released in our house.  It wasn’t the most apetizing thing I’ve seen, but who cares?  For 3-4 months, our drains will work perfectly.

See?  Soap and water still works.

Save yourself and your kids - get rid of those chemicals.  It’s a great way to teach kids how sinks work and hey, in these (or any) economic times, it’s a great way to grow your net worth.

Saturday
28Jun2008

Economic Self-Cannibalism

selfcannibalism.jpgHere’s the concept that I am wrestling at this point in my life.  Zero-sum competition and outcomes.

As you know, I am compelled on a regular basis to work towards explaining why we are in a recession so that you, my readers, may benefit and parachute before this economic plane crashes.

So, why are we at this point?  What is a recession?

A recession by definition is a subjective amount of time in which a country’s total output (GDP) decreases.  And this is how President George W. makes his case that we are not (technically) in a recession, because we have experienced minute growth.  Only one problem with that reconciliation - you remember when GW claimed during the 2000 election cycle that Al Gore was guilty of ‘fuzzy math’? - well, our ‘growth’ is based on some fuzzy math.  Namely, it’s built on smoke and mirrors - federal interest rate juggling, hefty war expenses and some highly inflated oil revenues among many others.

It works like this: our economy shrinks say $19B this year because we are all producing less due to overseas outsourcing, increased debt loads, the housing and mortgage crisis, gasoline hikes, etc, etc.  And we all feel that pain.  However, approve a $19.1B Iraq War bill (government expenditures are included in GDP) and suddenly our economy ‘grew’ $0.1B.  Welcome to fuzzy macro-economic math.

It’s like when my wife returns from shopping and before the presentation of her efforts, begins by telling me she saved 10%.  What, am I stupid?  I know what that means.  It means that she had a 10% coupon, so she bought 30% more!  Fuzzy math.

As to why we are at this point, well that involves game theory and what we call a zero-sum game.  A zero sum game is a competition in which one individual does better (gains) at another’s expense.

Think:

  • Tug of war - one person/team’s gain can only come at the expense of the other person/team’s loss
  • Chess/Checkers/Risk - a person only gains by taking away resources from and advancing on the competition
  • Poker - a person only wins at the expense of other players at the table.

But how did we get to zero-sum gaming/economics?

shoemaker.jpgPicture yourself in an early civilization (or a least picture yourself as Charles Ingles in Little House on the Prairie) - people then gained by cooperative ‘games’.  In those days, if you wanted shelter, you put your hands to work and made shelter.  If you wanted food, you plowed, planted, harvested, stored and cooked it all.  Our early ancestors were jacks of all trades.  But something happened.  There was a person who made shoes really well who barely had time to fix his fence - he just happened to know a guy who built great fences, but even if he did have time, made lousy shoes and had sore feet.  Voila.  Social economics (trade) was born.  And because each became specialized in their jobs, they could produce more at lower costs because of efficiencies.  Both shoes and fences were made better than ever and everyone gained in this equation - cooperative gaming.

Then again, something happened - critical mass.  Zero-sum games entered the equation because at some point, both the shoe maker and the fence maker had built up successful businesses which had the accompanying overhead (recurring) costs.  Alas, they had to start selling shoes and fences to people who didn’t necessarily need them, so at this point they’re gaining at somebody’s else’s expense.  To bring it home - how many pairs of shoes do you have?  Now, how many pairs do you need?  (NEED?)  Somebody somewhere convinced you that you ‘needed’ more than 1 pair.  Shoemakers gain more from the sales of 10 extra pairs of shoes than you do from having 10 extra pairs of shoes.  So zero-sum seems to equate to excess, don’t you think?

Another example - think insurance.  Ben Franklin engineered the first organized fire department, then quickly followed by creating the first fire insurance company.  Good intentions or capitalism?  Both.  Insurance at it’s root is socialism - socialism has the intention of being cooperative (everyone can benefit), but ends up a zero-sum (gain comes from others expense).  Face it, the people who need insurance are typically high-risks, while those low-risk users keep the system alive.  And before you know it, insurance companies are denying worthy claims and dropping low-risk customers who are finally caught by the odds.  Why?  Somebody has to lose for others to gain in a zero-sum game.  In the insurance game, low risk users are there to pay, not use.

And see, our economy right now is based on a zero-sum game.  It’s propped up on debt.  So the ‘gains’ that we are experiencing, the mideast oil that we are fighting for and protecting, the windfall pharmaceutical and oil profits are all coming at our own expense.  We are cannibalists - we are eating ourselves out of our future security, out of stress-lite lives and out of our own homes.

So what have you eaten today?  Check your debt against your assets (income, savings, investments) - the answer may just be…yourself.

Bon appetite!

Sunday
08Jun2008

Big Brown and the American Dream

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We all do it to some degree.  We live vicariously through media and sports figures.  If an underdog wins, we feel anything is possible for us too.  If the hero falters, then we feel exonerated that they are flawed just like us.  It’s a yin and yang - life’s eternal balancing act.

In recession/depression times, those ‘heroes’ become even more important.  One of my all-time favorite movies was directed by Ron Howard and starred Russell Crowe as James Braddock in Cinderella Man.  It’s a true story about an overdue, has-been, depression-era boxer who won the heavyweight championship against all odds.  From soup kitchen lines and shanty towns to champion of the world and it’s just what America needed in the 30s.

cinderellamanAs a parent, one of the most touching scenes of the film was when Braddock was sitting down for breakfast before heading out to the work lines in hopes of landing a day job.  In a humbling moment, he sacrifices his breakfast to his daughter after she aches that, after her small portion, she is still hungry.  Come on, you have to root for that kind of character.

Which brings us back to 2008 - still on the front end of a deep recession, we all could use a rising hero.  Yesterday, that hero was Big Brown who quickly rose to challenge for the Triple Crown of horse racing.  In 30 years, 10 horses had come so close only to fall short - some by less than a length.  And amid daily reminders of our collapsing economy - record oil/gas prices, record consumer confidence drops, largest rise in unemployment in 20 years, lowest home equity since World War II, hell even Ed McMahon and crowd-favorite Evander Holyfield are losing their houses - it was time for the unthinkable.  Time for the underdog to rise up and lift our spirits.

As the Belmont Stakes and the race for the Triple Crown and immortality began, we all held our collective breathes.  We sat our kids around the High-Def to bear witness to this historic moment.  We all freaked when Big Brown came out of the gate choppy and then was boxed in.  But his jockey bullied his way to the outside and Big Brown went stride for stride in a comfortable 3rd place and we all exhaled in relief.  As we watched in both the Kentucky Derby and the Preakness, Big Brown has a button and when pushed, he just explodes away from the pack so we had no reason to think that the Triple Crown was not in the bag.

The time came to push the button and watch him move.  And move he did - backwards.  He just fizzled.  And so did the dreams of millions who watched and waited to live vicariously through a horse.  You could hear it in our family room, you could hear it clearly on the track, and if you listened really well, you could hear it across this struggling country.  “No!!!”

Not only did Big Brown miss greatness, but he finished dead last.  That was a big blow to our American psyche and to our collective hopes and fears.

Now, it’s just a horse race and Big Brown had by all accounts a very successful year.  Not only in wins, but in stud fees which were negotiated in the $50M range immediately following his 2nd win of the Triple.  But the worst part is that there has been no evidence as to what happened.  No external injuries and thus far, thankfully, no internal injuries.

Maybe - call me crazy - maybe he was just tired.  After all, for more than halfway around the longest race in the Triple Crown, Big Brown carried an entire country on his back.  Maybe this race serves as a reminder that we should get off and carry our own weight.  Afterall, our country’s current failures are purely self-inflicted on every level - government, business and consumer.

rockyAs you’ve heard me say ad nauseam, our economy cannot sustain growth on the back of debt and, at least for yesterday, we could not live through Big Brown.  So in the meantime - while we wait for another hero to come along - let’s all throw in a Rocky movie, pick our collectives selves up from the bootstraps and rebuild this country with old-fashioned grit and determination that has defined so many American generations.  Let’s get back to real, sustainable growth, production and performance - even against the odds and naysayers.  We’re underdogs, mavericks and cowboys.  It’s what we do.

Yo Adrian!

Tuesday
20May2008

Smart Monkeys; Stupid Researchers

(Originally posted January 5th, 2008)

Ok, so file this under ‘Who pays for this crap?”

Study: Monkeys ‘pay’ for sex by grooming
In the primate world sex is subject to the law of supply and demand

This was an article link I saw on my MSN home page.  Hard to resist such stupidity and hey, I’m a guy and a sociologist so I just can’t resist articles about “monkey sex”.

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So, the premise of this fine-tuned, 20-month research is that monkeys engage in ‘sexual economics’ or prostitution because they engage in foreplay or grooming and are, in some instances, rewarded with sex.  I guess what ruffles my feathers is that there are no parallelisms to human behavior and that this is presented as some sort of revelation or at the least, enlightenment.

Uh, sorry.  This same thing goes on in my household and probably yours and I didn’t pay any researchers to watch me and tell me that.

Excerpts:

“Gumert found after a male grooms a female, the likelihood that she will engage in sexual activity with the male was about three times more than if the grooming had not occurred.”

“It’s a sign of friendship and family, and it’s also something that can be exchanged for sexual services,” Gumert said.

So, here’s a little study of my own.  After 30 plus years of research, I’ve discovered:

  • When my mother visits and I rub her feet, I am grossed out but a good son nonetheless looking for a few points for Christmas (sorry, Mom!),
  • When I rub my own feet, I am excited because I can still reach them,
  • When I rub your feet, put on your winter suit, because hell has just frozen over,
  • When I rub my dog’s feet, I am being playful and passing time with my buddy,
  • When I rub my wife’s feet, my eyes are dilated, my breath is heavy and I’m looking for fireworks.

Oh, and I’ve also noticed that, like monkeys, I too am more likely to be rewarded with sex for certain activities:

  • Fixing the noisy toilet, 12% more likely
  • Cleaning the floor, 24% more likely
  • Taking a shower, 58% more likely
  • Taking my wife for ice cream, 95% more likely
  • Sending my wife off to shop for a day, ka-ching 200% more likely (that’s right, twice ;)

Well, go figure.  Now, if you’ll excuse me, my wife’s feet look sore from shopping and I could use some monkey love. ;)

Wednesday
02Jan2008

Paddling: Girls Like A Tough Guy

Paddling is so old-school.  Is there any school that still does this?  I doubt it.  It is no longer PC - ‘politically correct’.  Too many lawsuits.

What a sham(e).  Forget the power and utility of behavior modification, we’ve lost a part of Americana and an easy way for a tough underdog to get a girl’s attention.  Maybe if kids could still earn some dignity with a good, well publicized paddling, we wouldn’t have kids bringing guns and knives to school looking to earn (or demand) the respect of their peers.

A few years after my parent’s divorced, I moved with my mother to West Virginia.  It was 1978 - the underdog/outcast era of Rocky Balboa, Mad Max, Saturday Night Fever and Greased Lightning.  Upon arriving in what was probably my 3rd school in 4 years, I stirred the classroom’s bee’s nest by taking an interest in the most popular girl - Tanya.  Her boyfriend felt a little crowded so he sent his buddy Doug (who was twice the size of any of the rest of us) while the teacher was out to deliver me a message to back off.  This was 4th grade by the way - really serious stuff. :)

In a lucky move, probably just because I caught him off guard when he grabbed me, I gave him a half-flip (hey, I was half his size) and he caught the corner of a desk which was enough to send both him and the desk to a loud, crashing and certainly unwelcome collapse to the floor.

That was the only luck I would have as, unfortunately for me, the sound was loud enough that the evidence (body and desk) was still on the floor when the teacher arrived in a panic.  Off to the principal’s office I went.  Me.  The new kid who was just defending himself.  After a brief discussion, the principal walked over to me with a paddle that seemed as tall as me and instructed me to bend over and grab my knees.  WHACK.  WHACK.  Twice.  Damn.  If you’ve ever been paddled, then you know that the 2nd swat is the deliverance of hell.  That’s the one that makes you catch your breath when you sit down.  Smarts.

But that paddling was effective behavior modification.  I didn’t need Ritalin.  Nope, just a paddling and I learned my lesson which was to never flip my peers onto a collapsible desk - and get caught.  Well, ok, maybe it didn’t modify my behavior so much, as Doug and I had a couple more run-ins in which we were both paddled.  But paddling did earn me the respect of my new peers including Doug and of course, Tanya.  That girl was just hot and worth every punch and paddle.

Bring paddling back - let boys be boys and do stupid (and harmless in the grand scheme of things) to earn their whacks and defend their girl.  Nothing wrong with a little self-respect and chivalry.  In the end, we all went home and our school was never featured on national news networks.

Sunday
16Dec2007

Dreaming with My Eyes Wide Open

Today, I awoke to my dreams.  Ever do that?  Emily sleeps mostly through the night, but the early morning is restless right now for us.  So this is a perfect time to wake up dreaming in that time between sleep and morning chaos.

My thoughts this morning jumped to a vision I had while in Austin - Opportunity for the Homeless?  You see I am passionate about helping people to find their way in life.  I have a coaching client right now who is incredibly responsive to our discussions and when I challenge him, he engages.  And that, in turn, engages me.  I feed off of people who are hungry for opportunity.  Conversely, those who are complacent suck the energy right out of me.

This vision though exists because I believe that within the homeless group, I can find a healthy percentage of people who are looking for encouragement and opportunity not a free lunch.  They are almost child-like in both their perception of the world and their sensitivity to it.  These are people that society has rejected and, in turn, they have rejected society.  And I mean child-like in a very positive manner.  Yes, children are naive, but their ambition and open-mindedness is what moves the world forward.  Society never advanced due to callousness.

That is why I enjoy working so much with and have so many children.  Children are the seeds of change and advancement.  They are little sponges eager for acceptance and knowledge of how this crazy world works.  Children, like plants, need both strong roots and fertile, solid ground.  I also enjoy working with adults with that same child-like energy and optimism.

Not that anyone would ever associate homelessness with optimism, but I believe there is a healthy percentage of homeless that has a lingering, if not squashed, optimism and would thrive with a new start of encouragement, knowledge and roots.  So, I would like to help them, that’s all.  But, then again, I too have child-like energy and ambition and I like underdogs.  Yo Adrian!

Thursday
08Nov2007

Get Your House in Order

garage.jpgA couple of years ago, Julie and I went out to dinner with some friends and discussed the housing market and general economy.  I assured my friend that the housing market would in fact bust as it was not sustainable.

Why?  Because growth on the back of debt is not sustainable - it’s a fundamental sociological and economic principle.  If you own your own business then you know that debt is almost unavoidable to initiate growth but it cannot sustain growth.  Debt is just really a primer.  It will help to ignite a spark and turn the engine over, but if the gas tank is empty the efforts are fruitless.

So who was right in our friendly dinner discussion?  Both it appears.  Everything I stated was in fact true and his arguments held little water - just faith.  But what I failed to recognize was the governments determination to keep a recession at bay.  American debt is at record highs - even adjusted for inflation - both on the personal and federal level.  We cannot sustain this and the bubble will burst.

We are involved in many trade deficits - this means we are spending more money in foreign markets than they spend here.  Think of it like this, you own an auto repair shop and your friend owns a grocery store in town.  You buy the majority of your groceries from your friend, but he splits his auto repair money between you and somebody across town.  At some point, you are not making enough money and must cut back your grocery spending or you borrow against creditors to buy groceries. At some point again, the credit load is full and you are now in trouble.  Your friend selling groceries however doesn’t take the fall because everybody is still buying groceries.

This is the state of our union right now.  The US dollar is trading at an all-time low.  Gasoline prices are at an all-time high.  The government has propped up our economy with roller coaster interest rates and - well, war.  War is always a good economic remedy - short-term.  And this war is no longer short-term at 5+ years - so the war too will begin to drag down the economy - look back to Vietnam.  Vietnam was a recession-avoiding war, but it went too long, then came the gas/oil crisis and economic turmoil.  I don’t envy the next President who will inherit this mess that is being propped up to implode on January 21st, 2009 so the George W. Bush can proclaim “It didn’t happen on my watch!  Leave it to the Democrats to do something wrong and screw up everything I built in only 1 day.”

So right now our economy is propped up by war and foreign investors.  So, I say to you, get your house in order.  Buy back your debt.  (Pay it down.)   Stop using debt for consumption - food, gas, leisure/comfort, improvements.  Use E-Bay to get rid of those closet, attic and garage stuffers that you hardly ever use, but they still have value.  If whatever you have is in really good, working order/shape, then you can expect to get 40-60% of retail value.  Do repairs around the house yourself if you can and avoid any repairs/expansions that are not vital to survival.  If you think any expansion is going to add value to your resale, think again and check out how many homes are sitting on the market for 6-9 months and going through price-drop after price-drop.

If you have a recession-proof business, then debt is not a bad idea to initiate growth while you can.  Remember the Great Depression?  Of course you don’t.  But you should study it and learn from it.  You probably picture soup lines and starving families in tent cities.  What you probably don’t picture and won’t read too much about was how many, many, many people actually grew rich or richer during the depression.  Why?  Because they had their houses in order and were indebted to no one.

Now, I’m not an end of the world kind of guy so don’t get me wrong or panic that the sky is falling.  This is just a friendly reminder that ‘those ignorant of history are doomed to repeat it’ - meaning, sociological/economic cycles are predictable.  We have conservation which leads to greed which leads to arrogance which leads to bust which leads to poverty which leads back to conservation and the whole thing is a ‘little history repeating.’  Right now we have arrogance in America - our debt levels indicate that we think we can just keep on spending and somehow, it will all work it’s way out.  It will my friend, it will.  The question is though - are you riding the wave which will crash or are you jumping the curve to conservation which means you will be among the first to enjoy the spoils and endure the struggles?

But don’t take my word for it.  Look around you and review your history. :)